Showing posts with label caring. Show all posts
Showing posts with label caring. Show all posts

Sunday, 9 September 2012

So do you care?




A long while ago I recall – in a slightly vague and woolly way – my mum talking about recruiting volunteers. People to do simple things like drive mini-buses, serve teas and coffee, deliver meals-on-wheels, run a housebound library service and many other little tasks.  The gist of my mum’s grumble was that people weren’t prepared to help out. Not because they were too busy or helping somewhere else but because they had off-loaded “caring” onto the government.

“That’s the Council’s job,” they’d say adding a comment about how they pay their rates before turning back into the house. And, as the volunteer leadership crumbled away it was replaced by paid workers (as was my mum when she finally retired as Secretary of Penge & Anerley Age Concern) – professionals whose job it was to do the “caring”.

I’m sure all this is a bit of an exaggeration but the essence is true. As state social services professionalised and expanded into areas previously the world of the local voluntary group, the idea of ‘caring’ was lost. The word wasn’t. It became a stick to beat those who believed – and still believe – that private action in our local community cannot be replaced by state social services. Conservatives – those who believe in private social action – were told that, for holding to this belief, we didn’t ‘care’.

I also recall listening to an earnest, green socialist (who as it happens cares deeply, but that’s a different story) saying that volunteers shouldn’t be used to do tasks that a paid person could do. So much, I thought, for the community litter pick, the hospital car service and the Working Men’s Club old people’s Christmas party. Volunteers were to be reduced to the margins – ‘caring’ had been nationalised. Our only act of care was to be the paying of taxes to employ the carers.

And it got expensive. Back in Penge, when mum retired, the cost of running that day centre rose because where once in was run by volunteers now it is run by professionals. All provided for through a grant from the Council. This change took place everywhere as social action in local communities run by volunteers was replaced by services delivered by paid staff.  Most of us got this – rather than have any social pressure to be charitable, we could go about our lives secure in the knowledge that our taxes were going to provide all the ‘caring’ the community might need.

The problem is that, for all the sense of vocation in the “third sector”, people working there are not merely ciphers for all the ‘caring’ that the rest of us used to do but don’t any more. And neither does the enormous social services bureaucracy or the vast behemoth that is NHS non-clinical services serve this ‘caring’ purpose. It may be right for taxes to fund these services but that does not make the taxpayer ‘caring’.

Nor does ‘delivering’ (how the public sector loves that word – perhaps they all had a secret wish to be postmen) social services make us ‘caring’. These are just jobs – useful, worthwhile, valued (we hope) jobs. But not ‘caring’. Government does not ‘care’ only people, by themselves or with others of like mind, can ‘care’.

Most of us care about our nearest and dearest – children, parents. More than we think, people care about their neighbours, about the neighbourhood where they live and about giving other folk the space to succeed. None of this caring requires government, taxation or the employment of ‘workers’. It just requires us to care.

It may be a failing of government that there are children going hungry. It seems very likely that it is surely a failure of parenting as well. But the debate about this issue is not a debate about whether or not people offering differing solutions “care” and to couch it in those terms is to debase the idea of caring, to make it meaningless.

If there is one area in which our political debate is ill-served it is in this use of “caring” and “non-caring” as terms of political positioning. This was made possible by what we can call the nationalisation of care. This isn’t to say that people stopped caring – that would be impossible – but to say that the scope for us to care beyond the narrow confines of family and neighbours has been taken away from us by the dominance and control of state social services. And by the way in which the voluntary and community sector – the remnants of Burke’s little battalions – came to rely on the taxpayer rather than on the idea of charity.

I had hoped this was changing, that social action – local, communal and caring – would replace that childishly futile debate about who does or doesn’t care. But no, writers in left-leaning papers still routinely press the “Tories don’t care” button that they know their readers will love. And their counterparts respond by becoming ghastly caricatures of John Galt in their celebration of designedly uncaring language.

The other day I read something by a left-wing economist sort that reminded me why I’m a Conservative:


But there is another strand of conservatism which is wholly consistent with the idea that we owe our fortune to the past. Edmund Burke famously said that society is "a partnership not only between those who are living, but between those who are living, those who are dead, and those who are to be born."

Which raises a paradox. Whilst economic research now supports Burke's view, much of the right no longer does so, preferring ahistorical inidividualist tosh...


In its way this was the idea that Cameron tried to rediscover with the “Big Society”. The idea of stewardship, that ownership isn’t everything and that we all – rich, poor, young, old – have something to contribute. Not to the state. Not just in the form of money – let alone taxes. But in whatever way we can, in the place we call home.

We built this place. And each of us should care for it and for our neighbours who live in it. And, you know, the truth is that we do care.


Take of English flowers these --
Spring's full-vaced primroses,
Summer's wild wide-hearted rose,
Autumn's wall-flower of the close,
And, thy darkness to illume,
Winter's bee-thronged ivy-bloom.
Seek and serve them where they bide
From Candlemas to Christmas-tide,
For these simples, used aright,
Can restore a failing sight.

These shall cleanse and purify
Webbed and inward-turning eye;
These shall show thee treasure hid,
Thy familiar fields amid;
And reveal (which is thy need)
Every man a King indeed!


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Wednesday, 16 March 2011

Death doesn't become us - a thought on mercy killing

Anna Raccoon, in that knocked-back, slightly laconic manner she takes, describes yet another travesty of life sourced from the Court of Protection – the tale of Wally which she concludes with:

He was a success story by Court of Protection standards too. Probate had been obtained, building society funds duly accredited, house put up for sale to fund his care home, Statutory Will made out, Receiver changed to local solicitor.  Not much left in the account after all the legal bills had been paid.

I drove past the houses on my way to the next appointment. All one colour now, the second front door blocked up – I dare say the courtyard had been gentrified too. I could guess who’d bought it.

Everybody patting themselves on the back – job well done.

And, like these things do, it reminded me of the stories my Mum used to tell – of rapacious relatives, incompetent and venal solicitors and idle carers. Above all, Anna’s tale reminded me of my Mum’s argument against “mercy killing”.

My Mum spent 25 years and more working with old people in and around Penge – delivering meals-on-wheels, driving the mini-buses and running Penge & Anerley Age Concern’s lunch club and day centre on Melvin Road. In this time she saw every sort of folk – from Mr Squirrel who worried that he couldn’t (at 96) dig the garden as in times past to Dr Arnott, communist party member, academic historian and employer of a maid.

Every day, my Mum would tell us, one or more of the people she saw would proclaim – in that depression of loneliness so common among the old and infirm – “I’m just a burden, I’d be better off dead”, or some similar formula of despair. Mum’s response would be to tell them not to be so silly, have a cup of tea and a chat.

But Mum’s view – informed by bitter experience – was that not all the relatives and carers took the same view as she did. And, Anna’s tale of Wally reminds us of this:

The local Doctor was persuaded to sign a form for the Court of Protection – Wally ‘wasn’t taking care of himself’, ‘had no appreciation of the need to pay his council tax’ – Mrs Wally had been paying for both sides of the house for years, unwilling to let Wally’s negligence lose her a desirable home – it was sufficient. ‘Mrs Wally’ was duly installed as Receiver, and everyone assumed that she was his Mother.

All Mrs Wally did was to arrange to part Wally from his property and cash – imagine a world where that form is placed before Wally and his sort? The one where a depressed, slightly confused, sad old person signs to say they want to die, where the bureaucracy takes this as consent and Auntie Sissie or Grandpa Geoff is shipped safely across the Styx leaving his worldly goods behind for the inheritors to enjoy.

It is a depressing truth that much of the debate about our treatment of the old is informed less by understanding or sympathy than by totting up the banknotes tied up in these people’s homes and chattels. Banknotes that could make some old persons last few years more comfortable but which we leave there instead for the relatives to scrap over after they’ve died. And it’s a further depressing truth that “liberalising” euthanasia would grant the opportunity to bring forward the time for that division of spoils – all it will take is a consent form.

Anna’s tale of Wally reminds me why mercy killing – for all that it’s wrapped up in soft words and informed by tragedy – remains killing. And we shouldn’t make that easier, should we?

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